How to Stay Motivated As a First-time Mom
Being a first-time mom is a life-changing event in any woman’s life – your priorities, your hormones, your body… Everything changes. It is a thrilling and amazing experience but can understandably is a little scary as well. At first, you go through that exciting period from mom-to-be to being a mom, who can be often, be hectic and heady. As a result, your motivation may drop which can impact on how you think and feel about everything – sometimes you feel over the moon and sometimes you feel down with frustration with your new addition in life. It is tough!
The realization as a new mother and being responsible for another human, so dependent on you, can throw you for a loop but the truth is having a baby will make you realize we as women are powerful creatures and this will simplify to be more efficient, assertive and motivated towards your life. Having said that, sometimes our energy level and spirit begin to drop down, however, only YOU can keep your mindset positive to motivate and uplift your mood quickly. I understand as a first-time mom, it happened to me a lot of time when things don’t go as I plan but following the below ways has helped me to stay motivated during my motherhood journey.
Here are my 12 Awesome tips to stay motivated that may help you on your motherhood journey:
Turn Negative Thoughts into Positive
There are times when you have a productive day, but yet upon reflecting, you may focus on negatives. Do you agree? It happened to me most of the times particularly during the First week with my newborn. At times I felt delighted whenever I meet the needs and wants of my baby and at times I felt overly fatigued, frazzled and at a loss whenever I couldn’t figure out what I am doing. I find myself feeling resentful and angry at everything.
“When life gives you lemons, you should try to make lemonade“, You are in control of every situation whether it’s positive or negative. The more you can turn your negative perspective into positives, the more fulfilled and happier your life will be.
Embrace The Moment
I know as a first time mom there’s a lot of things going on your mind. Do not over think; always try to nourish your mind with positive emotions. You have to learn to appreciate what you have and the current moment with your baby. Time flies in the blink of an eye hence you need to take a moment, embrace while it last and think what you can do on the day with your baby to relish that time. You can’t get back the time but if you have memories it can surely get back. Grab the good stuff and prolong your happiness.
“Appreciate what a wonder baby you have – those chubby chicks”.
Take the opportunity to embrace this time and have fun with your little one, get out and enjoy your new family.
Do What You Love
Bringing your best qualities when doing what you love is often helpful for you and for baby. It helps you to focus on your inner strengths and the level of engagement increases for the baby. For example, I love playing the guitar so whenever it’s a playtime I grab this opportunity to learn new songs and sing along that helps not only me but also my baby to be able to communicate with me.
Likewise, take a walk or breaks no matter how short to make you feel refresh, energise and run your own errands.
Keep a Gratitude Journal
This is one of my favourite ideas to stay motivated that is by jotting down my feelings on the journal which has helped me to focus and identify the things that I am grateful for. For instance,
- Thank you, Dear Husband, for always being there for your love and support.
- Thank you to my Little Hero for being my son and making me smile every morning.
Keep your gratitude journal (or just a blank paper is fine) by your bedside where you can reach and each night list 3-5 positive experiences from the day.
“Why Gratitude? Because it feels good and is a healthiest most transformative commitments that we can make to life – Ourselves and each other”
“Recording things and experiences for which you’re grateful has lasting positive effects for up to six months thus creating happiness and positive way“ which I have applied in my day-to-day to life. *Click the above link to learn more about the power of gratitude to implement in your daily routine.
5. Talk with your Family and Reconnect with Friends
Keep the connection with your family and friends – by doing this you feel strong, motivated and confident. For many moms, family support is one of the cornerstones of a happy life. It’s always a good idea to talk to your old friends from school or college. It helps to bring back those memories, which could make your day, and as a result, your day will be productive.
Remember! “Friends in need are Friends indeed”. So, do not hesitate to reconnect with each other.
Surround Yourself with Good People
Take a look around – Are you surrounded by happy people who can make you laugh for no reason? Do you get a boost to see those happy people? Indeed, when you surround yourself with positive people such as positive moms, workmates, managers their positivity will rub off on you and eventually your motivation peaks up. This is true, “Who you spend time with the most is who you will become”. Your friends, family, and the people you are connected to – they all will insanely inspire for your support. Therefore, it is important that you surround yourself, positive minded people.
“Surround yourself with really good people. I think that’s an important thing. Because the people you surround yourself are a reflection of you“quoted by Aaron Rodgers – love this!
Focus on one area to improve at a time
Giving attention to just one particular area is another way of creating motivation for you. This will help you to stay in full attention and avoid being overwhelmed. As a first time mom, the most concerning thing after baby might be your career, family, appearance, etc. thus if you push yourself to find out which areas you want to improve then this will help to work on improving your perspective.
For instance, I am focusing on fitness at the moment to lose some baby weight while maintaining my milk supply ( I’m a Breastfeeding mom). So what I aim for is to be able to do a 20-30 minutes home workout in my busy routine. I would highly recommend you to watch Body Fit By Amy on YouTube (Click this link) to see 30-minute postnatal exercise which has definitely helped me to burn fat and tone up after pregnancy. I’ve tried her workout videos during pregnancy as well and it was awesome!
Be a part of Social and Community groups
Whether it’s social media group or you’re nearby community group – try and connect to be part of it.
- Social Media can be beneficial when it comes to your tribe. You can easily join the most influential FB moms groups, which helps stay-home mom, or working mom lives easier. Recently, I have joined FB groups like Mom’s Time Well Spent, Redefining Mom, Breastfeeding Moms etc. which are a source of my motivation plus the love, support and valuable information shared within the group is extremely group. Don’t worry, these groups are all private you can freely ask a question and share your experience to help other moms too.
- Get involved in the Community Group, the members are immensely helpful in daily life and will motivate throughout your motherhood journey. e.g. there is a group like stroller meet-ups, breastfeeding moms, coffee groups etc., which are free to join where you have the opportunity to share your new journey with other moms.
*Recently, I came across one article by Kate Spencer regarding FACEBOOK MOMS, which was really touching because in her site she mentioned, “How a group of mothers,” I’ve never even met have helped me survive to raise a kid”. What you waiting for? Keep reaching out to this group, and Remember! You’re not alone in this motherhood journey.
One of the best ways to motivate yourself is to find the inspiration; it could be anything you like, a celebrity, family member, an outfit, image etc. For me, Inspiration comes from my little one to do better in life and also reading books, success stories, motivational videos, quotes, other blogs and following successful people on social media. The other way I like to do is to print out My Favorite Motivational Quotes and post it on the wall where you spent most of your time. You can even frame it to make it look pretty or stick in the fridge. By doing this simple idea, it will help you to remind every time you see it and to get through your toughest day. Those feelings will further help you to find your drive to motivate your mind to lead a life, creating success and to be that better version of you.
Read more motivational quotes that will get you through even toughest day – “Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day”.
Take Baby Steps
If you’re having a hard time getting started, then I would suggest you take a small step at a time. For instance, if you want to exercise, do 2 minutes of plank or push up and stick for a week. Do not think big yet that you have to do hard intense workout every 5 days in a week, take small baby steps and again slowly increase it to 4 minute the next week but remember to stick with the same time nor more and nor less and without even you realize you will start building the routine and in a month you will be doing around 30min workout. Thus, tiny steps will add up to a lot of progress in whatever you want to do and eventually success will be in your hand.
Hang in There!
Don’t worry, it’s okay if you get frustrated or feel completely frazzled with your baby especially when trying to figure out what he wants and when you are mistaken or maybe he won’t go back to sleep. This doesn’t mean you are a terrible mother or you don’t love your baby. All you need is the TIME and PATIENCE, a time to settle with your new addition in your life and a Patience which will make everything right with the time.
To sum up, here’s my Pro Tips For You!
- Having a Positive Perspective with practice and determination will lead to a fulfilled and happier life.
- Get your partner into the picture. It is always a good idea to get some time alone to do so allow your partner to take care of the baby.
- Take a walk or breaks no matter how short to make you feel refresh, re-energize and run your own errands.
- Aim to write a journal for once or twice a week. Focus on writing about people than things – showing gratitude tends to be more meaningful.
- Seize the moment of transitions and if you get stuck in this life events you must push yourselves to move.
THAT’S A WRAP!
I hope you all enjoyed my first post and I truly hope through my motivational ways, it will somehow help you to shine on your motherhood journey.
Over to You…
What do you do stay motivated? Or, have any tips or advice to add to this list? Let me know in the comments below!